That thought, “You’ll never make it.” or “You’re not good enough.” is the voice of the enemy wanting us to give up before we win.  That thought can’t defeat you unless you give up.  Keep fighting. Keep Trying!!

Hello My Ladies and My Fellows!!

It’s been a long time since I left you, without a dope blog to get depth through! (LOL I tried!)

Dream chasing and falling in love sound so romantic and fun, until you actually try doing that crap!!  This mess is scary!!  Like learning to be a pilot or clearing up your credit, scary! I can understand why Peter sank beneath the waves instead of walking the rest of the way on water to Jesus….The waves seemed closer and more familiar.  Strange, how familiarity can breed contempt and bondage!

Dreams are truly a romantic grand adventure.  However, in the process of pursuing purpose and planning prosperity, (I’m attracted to alliteration for this appearance. Hehehe.) we are confronted with the fears of rejection, inadequacy, failure, success, past wounds aaaannnd The Struggle!  Good goodness those walls and waves seem high and even insurmountable at times! (You like that word, “insurmountable”, don’t you? I’ma write it again *in my Eartha Kitt/Marilyn Monroe voice* “insurmountable” rawr baby…Bwhahaha!  

Anyway back to my point (puts on serious face), It is intimidating to go full force after our dreams or allow love in because some of us have become familiar an even best buddies with our expectation of failure and disappointment.  We believe the voice of those past doubts before we will the evidence of a present cheering audience.  Ain’t that crazy!! (Or am I the only one struggling with this one…Hmmm, maybe a little TMI.  My bad. Emotionally vomiting for a moment…let me just clean those pieces of my disclosed heart up off the floor.)  In truth, we must confront our criticism of our gifts, validity and worthiness to accept success or love.  That is painful because it is easier and more familiar to self destruct or self sabotage. Why? because we already know the worst of what happens when we don’t and we fear the best of what could happen when we succeed.  So sometimes we self sabotage in order not to face another failure or heartbreak.  Like settling into that old familiar ratty housecoat or chair.  It’s always been there, faithful.  That’s how we conform not by trying to but by being more comfortable with defeat than we are hungry for victory.

My point is that we are each standing somewhere along the journey between the boat and the bear hug atop of the bottomless waves.  Those waves are real and they are not.  Those doubts, disappointments and disasters may have happened in the past but today is not then.  The heartache and breakup may have happened but today’s love is not yesterday’s.  We must not look at our present pursuits with the perception that we picked up from our past.  We must be willing and even determined to heal, dream, dare, do, love and be passionate again! Yes, again!! And we can!

Si! Se Puede!!  Oui! Nous Pouvons!! Yes! We Can!!

We can tell our hearts that we can do it and not be held in the captivity of familiarity and conformity.  We can dream again and see a bigger possibility than before.  Annddd we can love again recognizing that isolation is not safety nor is that take out menu an adventure.  We want more.  So let’s go get it!!  I’m with you! Let’s learn to love and dream again afresh!  Pick yourself up and try again until the prison of self protection can’t hold you back from the pursuit of promise!! We don’t need the easy way out (Thunderdome! LoL)!  We refuse to self destruct!  We want the adventure! We want the challenge!  We want to fly the plan and we want to see a 800 credit score next to our name!  And we want to love unashamedly, uninhibitedly and unrelentingly!  So let’s go baby!! Full passion! Full Throttle! Full Hope! and Fully Alive!

Don’t push the self destruct button.  Just keep going…it will be ok.

Life, Life, Blessings and Besos!

Therosia

Hello My Ladies and My Fellows!

It’s March and I am late posting!  I wanted to start March 1st…arrrgggg…procrastination, your name has been, Therosia! But no more! No more I say! LOL!…but seriously, I’m starting.

I have been confronted with this thought so many times over the last few weeks,

JUST START!!

I cannot speak for anyone else but I have the worst tendency to overanalyze my dreams and then procrastinate.  I become paralyzed by the fear of messing up or not knowing what to do or sometimes having too many options!

Strangely, I am a very confident woman but sometimes, I still fear going forward or worse I go forward and then stand still after I have started.  Why??!!  Why do I find myself stagnating my way to self sabotage with fear, indecisiveness and flat out ignance?!  (Yes, I know it is spelled “ignorance” but colloquial phrasing and emotional emphasis dictates that I spell it IGNANCE. You see, I’m part Negro and Boughettry.  We will discuss that another time but for today, grammar lesson averted. Back to my point.)  Why?!

One of my spiritual fathers and mentors, Dr. Allen McCray (author of Who’s Behind The Mask and Founder of Life Impact), would say that it is a self sabotaging behavior formed from subconscious values and beliefs.  He is more than likely right but I’m still learning about that from him.  So, in the meantime and in between time ya girl is learning to do something stupid and brilliant at the same time…fail forward.  I heard this for the first time from a pastor friend of mine, Pastor Chad M. Johnson (Elevate International), a few years ago and thought, “That’s absolutely crazy!  I am not going to start off believing that I can fail my way to success”, but…here we are years later and his ministry has grown exponentially.  My life’s work is growing but it is doing so with a slower pace.  There is nothing wrong with slow growth, in fact that is usually best.  For example, slow weight loss is best for maintained weight loss.  However, sometimes slow growth is the result of sparingly investing.  What I mean is, procrastination in going forward produces little because it is giving only as much as I feel “safe” giving; only putting myself out there enough to the point where I don’t “feel” like my failure will cost me.  This mindset accomplishes nothing or little at most.  It is a false sense of security and an attitude of being a child of a lesser God.  Risk is about trust and faith.  Trust that God will do what He said and faith that it will turn out well for me in the end.

Now what do I do?  Well, frankly, I war between throwing the white flag up and running at it like Tony Montana did it in my favorite gangster movie death scene from Scarface, “Say Hello To My Little Friend!” and “I take all you bullets.” (Paraphrase, “You [messing] with the best!” Yes, I not so secretly love gangster movies.  But I digress.)  The surrender method nor the Scarface method work very well.  They are limited and temporarily successful at best.

The only real way that I have seen great success is following riskily and being rewarded humbly.  It is in having a passion connected to a purpose bigger than myself and in following that purpose of the One higher than myself, that real success is possible.  It is in receiving notoriety but letting it all be a reminder of who is the One truly deserving of praise.  It is when my purpose is not about me, my swag, my name, my reputation or my “good standing” that I can accept falling or failing forward as apart of the process of growing closer to the truth because my pride is killed in knowing that I am not the end all be all nor am I the source of greatness (Yes, RUN ON! To The Extreme!).  It is in knowing that I am a hot mess already and my failures don’t make me worse, they help me learn to be better.  It is in allowing my gifts, talents and callings to be a way to serve others and draw closer to God by humbly accepting that He is the only perfect one and the only real adult.  I am just a cosmic kid trying to step in my Daddy’s footprints.  It is here that real success is grasped because it’s not about the destination or how good I look.  It is about the journey and learning to enjoy the company of the One who is there with me through it all.  So I can just GO; Just Start and not fear messing up; not worry about making the right decision; not care if these should be commas, colons, or semi-colons,  because it is apart of growing, learning and yes it is a part of succeeding.  I embrace my failures as building blocks and starting blocks for the next leg of the race.

To those of us who have struggled…Just Start!  Just Go!!

Failure awaits and that is how you shall succeed.

Final note:

All March long I am listening to and challenging myself to the 30 day challenge by Earl Nightingale  (You can view it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XL9528Gohe0 )

It challenges us to start, to go and it asks us to really view the gifts and time we have as unlimited in it’s potential.  I dare you to do it with me! Make your 30 day test and comment below all month long.  I might have prizes for the ones who stick it out with me.

Alright y’all I gotta go. Life is calling and I am on the GO!

Life, Love, Blessings and Besos!

Therosia

Helloooo My Ladies and My Fellows!!!

The flowers are starting to wilt and the candy is down to the pieces that no one wants to eat but the memories,… may they be beautiful and last forever.

For those of us who experienced yesterday as Single’s Awareness day, are possibly waking up from an overdose of candy and lifetime movies (Not me but some of us…yeah).

However, none of this is what I want to write about today but can be effected by the feelings that come out of our Valentine’s high or lows.

Every so often, I get into super life planner mode!  Then I try to figure out my entire life in an hour to make up for not feeling adequate in life (I have to laugh at myself. Hahaha).  When I finally leave fear mode, I have run around emotionally frantic trying to figure out how to make my life great, completely ignoring the fact that it already is great.  I miss the moments that God has shown up and blessed.  In my frantic state, I am ungrateful and missing the point.

I am missing the point of life, in missing the appreciation that I should have for the gift of life in the first place.  Life is not something we bought, bargained for or even won in a match.  It is simply a gift and the appropriate response to a gift is thank you, not how do I overdress this turkey so everyone will think I’m great lol.  You, me, we are already great, just be appreciative.  Partner with God on the plan that He has for your life because He is the original one who dreamed your fantastic self up in the 1st place.  So round of applause God because I am fearfully, wonderfully and fabulously made and that my soul knows right well as I kiss myself in the mirror and look to You to ask what’s next on OUR agenda.

Remember, you are already great.  No need to figure it out, just learn how to walk it out with Him.

Life, Love, Blessings and Besos!

Your Sis and Your Servant,

Therosia

Helloooo, My Ladies and My Fellows,

I am so happy to introduce to you the new Therosia.com!  This is going to be fun, engaging, informative and challenging for us all.  I am going to need your help, however.  I need you to participate, comment and help me create a better website!  So let me know what you think and what you like.

My goal for this page is to share my heart and my passions with all of you.  I want to create and embrace community.  I will be sharing my music, poetry, art and my thoughts about everything.  Hopefully, you will share with me too!

Looking forward to this journey with you!

Life, love, blessings and besos!

Therosia